Are you reflecting what you want to attract?

When you show up for work each day and think about all the things you have to do,  do you also consider how you need to be ? Sounds like a strange question. But as a leader, are you reflecting the values and actions that you want to attract from your team and clients?

When we are young, we learn about emotion from our parents and carers, and we mirror them. Remember how babies’ eyes light up and reflect back the coos and smiles?

In our brains we have mirror neurons that are activated when we observe behaviours in people that influence us. They allow us to learn how to fit in with our social circle, reflecting back the behaviour we witness.

We may have all acted out of character due to ‘Peer pressure’ at some time in our lives, but this mirroring is not a conscious act, it is hard-wired into our brains!

As human beings we are social animals (yes even the introverts amongst us!), and we all have a primal need to belong. This amazing neurological adaptation allows us to imitate the body language and emotions of the leaders and influencers in our social circle to help us fit in with the rest of the group.

Reflecting positive behaviour 

So as a leader, how can you show up and demonstrate the behaviours and actions that you want your team to mirror? There are endless management training guides out there that will show you how to lead, but the fundamental principle is to be what you want others to do. 

“You don’t attract what you want.  You attract what you are”

Dr Wayne Dyer

So, embody your company values and treat everyone with the same respect and consideration that you expect to receive. The culture of your organisation will be nourished by your positive influence.

But what makes a great leader?

Author and Management expert Simon Sinek defines a great leader as:

‘someone who makes their employees feel secure, who draws them into a circle of trust’.

Therefore you have to be the person who is able to regulate your own emotional behaviour and, most importantly, have empathy and compassion for those around you.

In this video, Simon Sinek explains that to be a great leader, you need to make people feel safe, and lead by example. This includes looking after others for the benefit of the whole organisation.

If you want to find out more about Empathy- I Love this video by Brene Brown too.

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Stay Well, Ann